Being a stay-at-home mom can be great. But that doesn’t mean it is always sunshine and roses. There are struggles that you encounter. One of those struggles is stay-at-home mom boredom.
I didn’t think boredom was possible when I first became a stay-at-home mom. And that might have been because I was taking care of a baby, my first child, and had no idea what I was doing. I was taking care of her round-the-clock.
I wasn’t sleeping enough at night, so I was taking naps during the day when I could. When I was breastfeeding her, whether that was in the middle of the day or at 2 am, I was watching Netflix or Hulu shows on my phone which I enjoyed. It allowed me to feel a little more normal and human.
So boredom wasn’t on my mind. But as things have progressed, as she has started to get older, and she has more of a routine, I have realized I do get bored.
Having time to myself, which was a rarity not too long ago, I don’t know what to with myself. I’m used to always taking care of my daughter.
Motherhood is a 24/7 job. And when you are a stay-at-home mom, you don’t get a break from that. I like to think of it as being always “on-call” because you are the mom.
You might have a spouse or a partner helping you out, but they have other responsibilities as well. But being the mama, you are the go-to person. And when you stay home, it can be difficult because there is no one else around to help.
As your child grows up and starts to take longer naps, you will start finding yourself with more time. And with this time you might be wondering what to do. Now, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t things you could be doing around the house.
Between the laundry, keeping the kitchen clean, vacuuming, there are always a plethora of things to get done. I sometimes wonder why so much work needs to be done since my daughter is still too young to really destroy the house. But even the young ones destroy the house.
Now, with all this time, I could be taking a nap. (Since I’m not sleeping as well as I normally do.) It seems like there are all these shoulds, but you also know you need to take care of yourself.
And yet, boredom still creeps up, because you don’t want to keep taking care of the house for the millionth time that day. You want to do something just for you, but there are times you have no idea what you can do.
5 Tips for Beating Boredom as a Stay at Home Mom
There are ways to combat the boredom that you feel. I have found that these tips can not only help you stop feeling bored, but can help you keep your sanity. Here are some tips to help you beat the boredom that can creep up as a stay-at-home mom.
1. It Is Okay To Do Nothing
If at that moment you do not feel like loading the dishwasher for the seventh time that day, it is okay to take a break from the house and the chores. It is okay to close your eyes and take a breather. To just rest.
I think boredom can come from a place of not knowing what to do. It’s not so much that there isn’t anything to do or that you don’t want to do anything. (And if you really don’t, then that is okay too.) It’s that there are so many things you could be doing, that it gets to be overwhelming.
There seem to be all of these shoulds being reined on your head. Should do the housework. Should run those errands. Should (fill-in-the-blank here.)
Doing nothing can help to recharge you. Being a stay-at-home mom is busy. Between all of those “shoulds”, I mentioned needing to get done as well as taking care of your kids and running errands. It’s busy. So, I reiterate, it’s okay to do nothing.
2. Have a Routine
When there is structure to your day, the day feels productive. The days stop blending into each other as much. Plus, I find that kids tend to fare better when they have a routine. They are happier, more content even if they are still little.
With that being said, don’t be afraid to mix up your routine now and then. A change in your routine can also be helpful. Boredom can come from having too much structure, as well as not having enough.
If, for example, there is a day that you want to go to the zoo with your kids, then do it. Unless you have specifically made a commitment that you absolutely can’t break, don’t be afraid to shake things up.
3. Get Outside
Getting fresh air can do wonders for your mood as well as for beating boredom. Whether you just sit outside or go for a walk or a hike (if you are feeling adventurous).
Not only will you get fresh air, if you are moving outside since that is exercise, but you will also get the added benefit of endorphins flowing through your body. This can get you out of your boredom rut.
4. Have Human Interaction
As a stay-at-home mom, it can get so lonely. You don’t always have a chance to see and talk to another person. As human beings, we are social creatures and need that interaction. Yes, even you, introverted mama.
So, it’s important to get that interaction. If you can, then schedule a get-together with your friends. Depending on your situation and the ages of your kids, it is not always possible to get together with your friends. If not, then see if you can Skype with them.
Or you can see if there are any playgroups in your area. This can be great because you can talk to other moms and your kids can have friends to play with.
Another option is to go online. There are mom forums that you can join and be a part of, which is nice because interacting with another mom then they will understand more of the struggles that you are going or went through.
This is one of the reasons why a lot of moms start blogs, which then can turn into a home business. And the reason why is then they connect with other moms. Granted, you might not meet these moms in person, but these other moms can become someone that you can interact with.
And you never know, you could become such good friends with these other moms, that if you didn’t live near each other you could have Skype playdates. For you and your kids.
5. Have a Creative Outlet
Do a hobby. Something that you did before having kids, but have neglected since becoming a mom. Or it could be something you have always wanted to try. There is no time like the present, plus it will get you out of your comfort zone and chase the boredom away.
Maybe you have been wanting to finally start that blog. Do it. It won’t be easy, but let’s be honest, nothing worthwhile ever is. It is harder with kids around. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t possible. Plus, you will feel more fulfilled.
Maybe you used to knit or crochet and miss it. Then go back to it and do it.
Stay at home mom boredom is nothing to feel guilty about. It can happen when you least expect it. There are a number of ways to combat it which will also improve your mood and lower loneliness.
How do you beat stay-at-mom boredom?