The Ultimate Stay-At-Home Mom Guide

Maybe you are a mom who has always dreamed about being a stay-at-home mom but wants to know more about it. Maybe you have a friend or family member who is a stay-at-home mom, and you want to know more.

No matter who you are, this article can help you know more about being a stay-at-home mom either for yourself or so you understand what your family member or friend is doing all day.

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Stay at Home Mom Definition

When you look up the definition of a stay-at-home mom, it defaults to the definition for housewife.

“A housewife (also known as a homekeeper) is a woman whose work is running or managing her family’s home—caring for her children; buying, cooking, and storing food for the family; buying goods that the family needs for everyday life; housekeeping, cleaning and maintaining the home; and making, buying and/or mending clothes for the family—and who is not employed outside the home.” (1)

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Now, this definition is an outdated and old-fashioned term, but it still works as a definition of a stay-at-home mom. Depending on your situation and lifestyle, your spouse or significant other might help you with some of these responsibilities.

If you have a need for them to help, I think it is important to talk about it with them and make your needs clear. Just because this is the definition doesn’t mean it is set in stone.

There are some other miscellaneous things that fall under a stay-at-home mom’s domain as well. And just like the other tasks that fall under a stay-at-home mom’s jurisdiction, if you needed help to accomplish these tasks, it is possible they could be delegated.

  • Sick Children

When your children are sick, it is your responsibility to make the doctor’s appointment, take them to the appointment, fill the prescription, administer the medicine, and care for them.

  • All Kinds of Errands

Now it is true you are in charge of the grocery shopping and the errands that are associated with that task. If the cars in your household need maintenance, you are responsible for getting that done.

  • Financial Manager

Depending on your situation, you might be in charge of the daily managing of money. Since you are the one doing all the shopping and running other errands, it might be up to you to make sure the money your spouse or significant other is bringing home is covering all of the costs it needs too. This is where knowing how to save money even in small ways can come in handy.

  • Emergency Responder

When there is some kind of emergency whether big or small, the stay-at-home mom is the first one called.

I think another note about the housewife/stay-at-home mom definition is that although it is still true that you are not employed outside of the home, there is no reason why you can’t work from your house either online or offline. The internet is a magical place that offers more opportunities for stay-at-home moms than ever before.

Benefits of Being a Stay at Home Mom

There are many benefits to being a stay-at-home mom. Here are 11 of those benefits.

  1. You Get to Raise Your Own Child
  2. Save Money 
  3. See All of Your Child’s “Firsts” – first word, first time rolling over, first time sitting up, first time crawling, first real food, first steps, etc.
  4. Creates a Strong Bond with Your Child
  5. You Are in Charge of What Your Child’s Being Taught 
  6. Home Runs Smoother
  7. More Consistent Routine
  8. You Can Interact with Other SAHM’s (Stay At Home Moms)
  9. Confidence
  10. Better Nutrition
  11. You Can Reject What Everyone Else is Doing and Do Your Own Thing

Struggles You Face as a Stay at Home Mom

There is a lot of good and amazing benefits that can come out of being a stay-at-home mom. For you and for your children. But that doesn’t mean everything is always rainbows and unicorns. There are challenges that can happen when you are a stay-at-home mom.

  • Boredom 

You would think that with all of the things you do to care for your children, to care for the house, and all the errands that you run, boredom would never come. Well, it can. Because even though all of those things can take time and a lot of it, eventually you finish them. Although caring for your child never ends and goes on 24/7, once they go down for a nap you might find you have no idea what to do with your time.

  • Loneliness

It can be very isolating being with your kids day in and day out. You might not have interaction with another adult human being all day. This can cause feelings of being alone.

  • Depression

Be on the lookout for symptoms of depression. You no longer have an interest in the activities that you once enjoyed. You feeling lackluster about life. You have barely any energy and even though you have little ones to take care of, getting out of bed is a chore. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms or are concerned about other ways you are feeling, make sure you speak with your healthcare provider. They will be able to get you to the best solution.

  • Keeping the House Clean

Maybe this doesn’t seem like a struggle. But when you have babies making constant messes and toddlers bouncing off the walls, it presents a challenge. You might be feeling like you have already cleaned up the house for the umpteenth time that day and it is messy again.

It is okay if your house is not spotless all the time. There I said it. It helps to make a cleaning schedule and then stick to it.

For example, maybe you decide you will clean the kitchen Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Then only clean the kitchen those three days. The kitchen might only stay clean for 5 minutes, but at least you cleaned it. Cleaning all the time is stressful and unhelpful.

  • Getting Divorced and Being a Stay At Home Mom 

You might have been told that you have to work outside of the home once you get divorced. That it is impossible and irresponsible to be a single stay-at-home mom because you will be unable to keep up with financial demands.

Personally, I don’t subscribe to this line of thinking. I believe you are perfectly capable as a single stay-at-home mom to provide for your family if you start your own business.

Mama, while it may be true that you will need to temporarily work outside of your home, it doesn’t need to be that way forever. There are so many incredible opportunities available to you to either start a business online or to start a business from your home.

I believe that if you want to be a stay-at-home mom and you are now the sole breadwinner, I say go for it. You will most likely need to get a job outside of the home, while you are setting up your business, but it is 100% possible. Don’t let others or yourself convince you otherwise.

Making Money as a Stay-At-Home Mom

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There are so many ways to make money as a stay-at-home mom. So many, in fact, that if they were all included in this article, it would make for a very long article. I wanted to start your mind working on all of the opportunities that you could be involved with, so I am including some of my favorite ways to make money online. In case you think that you can only make money online from home, here are 5 ways to make money offline.

Online Options

  1. Blogging
  2. Affiliate Marketing
  3. Freelancing
  4. Virtual Assistant
  5. Online Teacher

Offline Options

  1. Wedding Planner
  2. Seamstress
  3. Dog Walker
  4. Cake Designer
  5. Door Dash

Wrapping Up

As a stay-at-home mom, you juggle many different hats. You are not only in charge of the housework and taking care of your children, but making sure your house runs smoothly. There are many benefits to being a stay-at-home mom. And although there can be challenges, the benefits outweigh them. You can even decide to make extra money as a stay-at-home mom by either starting an online or offline business.

10 thoughts on “The Ultimate Stay-At-Home Mom Guide”

  1. I am not sure being a stay at home Mom is good thing or a bad thing because I have seen both sides. There are instances in our family wherein I have seen stay at home mom’s complain about the sacrifices they make in their careers and life to support the family. I have also seen instances in my family where I have seen stay at home mom’s become entrepreneurs and are role models for other housewives.

    Taking care of the family, children and managing the house is not at all easy job – The challenge is to find a balance, as you rightly pointed out boredom can creep while you do mundane activities hence it is important that you find time for yourself and keep yourself engaged in activities that help you rejuvenate and don’t let the spark die within you.

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    • Hi Satz. Thank you for your perspective. Being a stay-at-home mom is difficult and a lot of sacrifices do have to be made. And that is not always easy. Balance is the goal and can be a challenge. I think it is something that I am striving to achieve every day.

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  2. Hey Amanda,

    It’s great that I have came across your article and website because my sister-in-law and my friends wife are considering becoming stay at home mothers. With everything that has happened in the pandemic and being furloughed from work, it is making sense to them that in this new normal being a stay at home mother is the way to go. I have only talked to my brother and friend about this but I think I am going to share this article with all of them as I think it will help.

    I will encourage them to comment and if they have any burning questions or issues then I will advise them to get in touch with you. If that is OK with you?

    Thank you for sharing and keep up the great work.

    All the best,

    Tom

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    • Hi Tom. That would be great, thank you. Becoming a stay-at-home mom can be a lonely and misunderstood journey. And it helps to have someone who understands to be on your side. I would be happy to answer any questions and help them with any concerns they might have.

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  3. Hi Amanda: these are great suggestions for stay at home moms. I’m a stay at home mom and I have enjoyed every moment of it. I know some people in the world think it’s harder than going to a job. The options are great for everybody and their lifestyle dreams.

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    • Hi Alyse. Thank you for your insights. I think being a stay-at-home mom is wonderful. However, I recognize it might not be for everyone. I do believe that every mom should have the option of being a stay-at-home mom if she wants to.

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  4. Hi Amanda,

    Only one thing came to mind when I read this article: moms are amazing. Keeping the home clean while caring for the children and even cooking. It’s not an easy job at all and I want to say that all mom out there, you ladies are amazing.

    I can think of so many stay at home moms in my network that are also running an online business – especially since the pandemic. Perhaps boredom, or perhaps inspired. Either ways, it’s always great that stay at home moms have many ways to earning extra income right from their very homes.

    Cheers.
    SAM

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    • Hi Sam. Thank you for your sweet and kind comment. Being a mom is not an easy job, but it is not something I would change for anything in the world. The opportunities to make money as a stay-at-home mom are truly amazing, especially with the internet right at your fingertips.

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  5. Hi Amanda!

    It’s always great to connect with another stay-at-home-mom. For me, it has been a bit of a challenge connecting with other moms this past year with the pandemic. But, online communities have been very helpful.

    You are so right about it being impossible to keep the house clean with kids! We try to spend lots of time outside, which helps minimize the opportunities for creating messes inside. =)

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    • Hi Leah. Welcome! It is so great to connect with you. Thank you for your comments. Oh so true, it has been a struggle to keep connected with other moms this past year. That is why I am so grateful that 1) the internet exists and 2) I have been able to connect with other moms online.

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